Why You Can Do To Be A Wife Material

July 22, 2020
Men Want A Wife Material For 
Marriage

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Franklin Nath: Ater writing my last post on husband material, I got a lot of requests from my male readers to write a post on wife material – how to find it, attoract it, and keep it. When I started to write, I realized that I was pretty much writing the same post (this is why I wrote in the husband material post that “my writing is for all genders and orientations so please, sub where you need to”).

Coaching clients all over the world and connecting with so many of you on social media and email has taught me that no matter what gender, relationship dynamic, or orientation… it really is the same bullsh*t.

It’s the same pain, the same heartbreak, and the same fears and insecurities… just different body parts. Our emotions are what connect us all. They blur differences that are the source of a lot of unnecessary judgment and obnoxious reactivity.

I write from the perspective of a straight woman because I am one. It would be inauthentic of me to try and please everyone or to write from another angle, but what I write about is universally applicable.

A selfish, emotional bum is a selfish, emotional bum. No matter what gender they are… they’re lame.

A toxic relationship is toxic. No matter what the orientation or dynamic is… it’s unhealthy.

So for this post, I want to address my male readers and also, my female readers based on what I’ve been hearing from men.

While I’ve been writing my book, I have interviewed hundreds of men from all walks of life: professional athletes, single fathers, students, entrepreneurs, stockbrokers, artists, celebrities, retirees, you name it. One of them has had such a wildlife, there is a movie based on his professional and sexual exploits. Some are married, others divorced, but the majority of them are single.

Over the last week, I called up a (very diverse) handful of them.

“How do you know when a woman is wife material?”
“What is it for you that separates one woman from the rest of the pack and puts her in a league of her own?”
I didn’t care about political correctness. I wanted real answers because what I was seeing online…


 “you’ll know she’s wife material if she likes to cook in lingerie and loves to watch sports!” wasn’t cutting it. Trash like this breeds misery. It makes everyone feel like they’re not being, getting, or worthy enough of it. Our relationships then become transactional performances instead of intimate connections.

And we wonder why we feel so unfulfilled.

After a few days, I was able to narrow the answers down to ten wife material qualities that these men shared with me. 

I hope that in reading this list, ALL of you can get the affirmation to never settle and stop going for what will garner more high-fives from your friends, your family, your culture, or society than genuine fulfillment in your heart.

Choosing yourself over what checks the proverbial boxes and looks good on paper is a level of power, indifference, happiness, and freedom that most people will never have the courage to experience. Their fear won’t allow it.

Luckily for you and me, this is no longer our reality.

First, for the men…
I’m going to keep it simple since I went over a lot of this my last post.

How to find wife material: Yes, there needs to be a physical attraction but please, take my advice here and go for the woman you would never otherwise go for – whatever that may be (I am not just talking about physical appearance here). If you aren’t giving women the chance to become attractive (in the ways that time can never mess with), it’s likely that you aren’t giving yourself a chance to be liked for who you really are by the only person that will ever matter: YOU. If you don’t see it in yourself (because you embody it, not because you want to appear to embody it), we won’t be able to see it in you.

How to attract wife material: Embody what you are looking to attract. Also, make sure that the environment you’re fishing in is conducive to the shark you are after.

Stop fishing in ponds and then wondering why you never encounter a fellow shark. If you want a shark, make sure that you’re in the ocean. Stop thinking that you’re not good enough just because you can’t find a shark in a pond. Stop feeling depleted because you continually get used. You are a shark. A shark cannot survive in a pond and no matter how “good” it is, it will never find a fellow shark in a pond – only common fish that want a free ride. Get back in the ocean. Yes, it’s scary but the real sharks will respect your lack of delusion and be attracted to that level of confidence (not cockiness, there is a difference).

Don’t worry about the women who are only after one thing and make you feel terrible. Their shark fins are fake. Keep going. Wife material women respect ambitious men. I can’t tell you how many physical attributes I would usually notice right off the bat but didn’t notice (or care about) whatsoever because ambition and authenticity is so.much.sexier than winning a genetic lottery (which requires no intelligence, empathy or effort).

How to keep wife material: Be consistent.

10 qualities that constitute wife material (according to men)
I want to be clear that this is not about being a good person. It’s about what is marriage-material attractive to men as far as romantic relationships go.

Here’s a summary of what the men I interviewed said…

1.  She’s doesn’t need me in any way. She wants me. That’s wife material. There’s nothing more attractive than a woman who isn’t afraid of being alone.
2. She lets me chase her instead of chasing me and questioning my every move.
3. She isn’t emasculating. And she feels comfortable being vulnerable with me. We support one each other.
4. Even though I’m not exactly where I want to be in life, she can tell that I’m right where I need to be as far as emotional intelligence and maturity go. And she respects that and sees the value in it. She appreciates that I’ve done the work on myself and because of that, she knows that I will accomplish my goals. She wanted me, supported me, and believed in me when I had nothing. 
5. She has control over her emotions and because of this, is not a liability that I have to worry about in any way (in regard to having a lack of tact around people I care about). She is predictable where it matters (integrity, honesty, loyalty, character, etc.) and unpredictable where it’s fun (use your imagination).


6. She isn’t emotionally or physically abusive and doesn’t get off to drama.
7. Whether she’s with me or out with friends, everything she does says “I respect myself and I respect the man I am with.” She conducts herself respectfully on social media and isn’t thirsty for attention.
8. She doesn’t play games but she always provides a mental challenge. I’m never bored. She’s comfortable in her own skin and can take my compliments instead of talking me out of them.
9. She has her own life and because of that, has some edge to her. She isn’t cold, she’s just not afraid to take action.
10. She is completely loyal and gives her all but I know that she WILL leave if the trust and loyalty are not reciprocated. That’s basically the difference between wife material and doormat/booty call material.
Bottom line, everything will turn around when you turn inward. When you stop looking for someone to fix you, rescue you, be your rock, and see in you what can’t see in yourself. Remember, you have the ability to choose how you want to live your life, how healthy you want to be mentally, and how you want to be treated. And to the right man, that’s wife material.

For those looking for doormat material… that’s called a dead end.

Source: https://www.franklinnath.com/what-are-the-ways-to-know-if-you-are-a-wife-material/

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